Holding the opposites

At times we can get locked into dualistic thinking when everything is either right or wrong, acceptable or not acceptable. We see things as black and white with no other option.  Holding such tight viewpoints can be very stressful.

This meditation helps us to learn to tolerate a more realistic view where two seemingly opposite ideas on a situation can exist simultaneously with out being judged as right or wrong. It helps us to release the need to control the situation and have it all our way.

Step 1 Think about a situation of conflict where you can see only two opposingsolutions.

Strep 2 Sit quietly in a space that is 'yours'. Relax and watch your breath for about 3 minutes.

Step 3 Think about how anxious and frustrated you have felt because you wanted something or someone to be a certain way and it is not working out as you would like. Observe your emotions such as anger, hurt, disappointment or fear.
What might you loose if both points of view exist simultaneously?

Step 4 Visualize both parties being in a situation where your survival depends on both having their needs met. Imagine a creative way in which that might happen. Perhaps both can meet half way. Look for the middle road or shared ground. 

Step 5 After you have found a shared 'space' or solution you can accept that each person can now have their needs met in some way. Become mindful of how you are feeling. Notice if your stress is less, if you feel more at peace.

Have you found some balance?